We are busy. All of us. Our minds are consumed with thoughts and to-do list, all vying for precious attention. We live in the world of having it all, we want the careers, the families, the passionate relationship, the meaningful friendships, the house, the money to travel, all of it. And really there’s nothing wrong with that, except sometimes our lives can feel like they are spiraling out of control. There’s a downside to having it all, a big one. When we fill our time and energy with so much, we lose the ability to just be. You see, something amazing happens when we can just be in our own company, without expectation. Most of us don’t have this time built into our lives.
So what happens when we make our relationship to self as important a priority?
Freedom, freedom from other’s expectations of what is right and wrong for you. When your internal compass is strong, decisions about what matters to you become easier to see. I would argue that some, if not a lot, of what we busy ourselves with, does not actually matter us. Without knowing it, we take on other’s picture of how our lives should look. It can be as simple as following clothing and food trends and as complicated as the decision to have children. What other’s think and feel about our lives has an effect on us. It’s fairly easy to tell when you are living your life through other’s expectations; you may feel frustrated often, overwhelmed, underappreciated, confused and resentful. These emotions are your minds way of telling you something is off.
The best way to break this pattern is to connect with your heart. The idea of self-love is often associated with things like bubble baths and affirmations, and while those can be great expressions of self-love, sometimes it’s about tearing down your own walls. It’s about getting really honest with yourself so that you can live the most authentic version of your life. It’s about setting boundaries with others and establishing space for you.
Sometimes we get to a place where we’re not even sure what we want. We are so disconnected from ourselves that we can’t even differentiate what we want from what others want for us. That’s ok. It’s a process, it’s about taking one step at a time until you find yourself on solid ground.
This Friday night I’m hosting one of my absolute favorite workshops, it’s called Set Free Your Inner Goddess. This workshop gives you the space and tools to establish this honest relationship with yourself. During the two hours together we look at how self-love, compassion, and sexual empowerment connect us to the source of our power, our creative energy, and our center. It’s a time for women to come together in support of each other’s individuality without judgment or expectation. If you are ready to begin, or perhaps continue, your exploration of inner-self, please join us. Friday March 9th 7-9pm at Metta Studios in Biddeford, ME. Pre-registration required, sign up here.
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My hope is through my words, through my own experiences, you will relate to some piece of my story. Some desire that I've shared or insecurity I've admitted to will also belong to you. My words are my truth, but they may also be yours.