November 12, 2019
You are worthy of great pleasure.
When I started tuning into the energy of this Full Moon in Taurus, all I could hear was Donna and Tom from Parks and Recreation saying “Treat Yo Self” in my ear. If you have not had the privilege of watching this series, here is a mash up clip of their Treat Yo Self days for your viewing pleasure (this video is from YouTube and I have no claims to the original content):
No, this moon isn’t necessarily about spending scads of money on yourself, although Venus, ruler of Taurus, does love a good adornment. It is about landing in your body and sinking into the experience of pleasure. Many of us have been spending time in our heads lately. Scorpio has felt really intense, it’s been about letting go and moving on. These two experience are not always comfortable for us on a body level and tend to kick up a lot of resistance on a mental level. The desire to catch up on extra sleep and check out with some escapism has been strong. However, today we are being invited back into our bodies, but purely for pleasure and joy.
What does this look like?
Well, it’s different for everyone! The key is sinking into YOUR pleasure. Do you want to take a bubble bath, have some outrageous sex, buy yourself a new beautiful pair of shoes? I invite you to check in today to what you are wanting to create this Full Moon and see if you can give yourself full permission to experience that.
Today isn’t about a one and done day of pleasure though. It’s about stepping into a life of pleasure. How can your life reflect more joy, pleasure, passion, and creativity today and in the days that follow? We are on the tail end of 2019, in 2020 we will be stepping into the year of the Emperor. In an Emperor year we are invited to stand tall in our power, to shine our gifts on the world, and unapologetically live our truth. Sounds pretty great right?
The grounded energy of Taurus also provides a solid foundation for action. Have you had an idea churning around in your head for the last few months? Take some action on it today. Maybe buy the URL to your dream website, sign up for that course, ask someone out on a date, whatever your dream is, take action.
Here are some ideas and prompts that might help you get the most out of your Full Moon today:
I hope you have a wonderful Full Moon today and really sink into the beauty and pleasure of this life you are living! Also, I have recently lowered my prices on individual readings and coaching in a totally soul centered move (read When Spirit Calls for all the details), so if you've been wanting to work with me one on one, Treat Yo Self!
…..you answer the fucking phone.
Keep reading at least until paragraph 4 for a huge, exciting announcement that affects YOU!
I have been professionally coaching, in one fashion or another, for going on ten years. THIS business, however, is celebrating its one-year anniversary! Here's a quick story of how Alicia Joy Stiles Coaching and Tarot came to be! In the summer of 2018, I closed the door to my coaching practice and thought I was done. I didn’t like the way I was feeling. I was hustling just like everyone else. I was trying to be louder and shinier. To pay attention to algorithms and master my social media presence. It felt so phony. All I’ve ever wanted is to invite in the truth, to let authenticity shine, to help the people around me experience the joy of living the life they know is theirs to live. But the way I was running my business didn’t feel that way. The work still felt good. It’s ALWAYS felt good, but the rest of it was hard. I closed my doors for three months. During that time, I held down a “normal job” but in my free time, I fell in love with the moon again, I spoke to the Goddess in meditations, I journaled about what it meant to me to be a woman. Then last November I got a message from the Spirit, it was loud and clear: Start Again, but this time, build your business on authenticity. Be YOU, unapologetically and at all times.
I answered that call, and what a year it has been. I just hosted my 7th consecutive Moon Circle at the beautiful Shilo Farm, I teach weekly Group Tarot classes, have a dedicated following on my weekly free card readings on Facebook LIVE, and have had the absolute pleasure of holding space for countless woman to step into their power and authenticity. I have unapologetically listened to my intuition and allowed it to draw me in the direction of my next steps. I have made so many wonderful connections and stepped into a community that has felt like home.
Listening to my intuition yet again,I have realized that my mission is to make my work accessible to more people. After consulting with spirit, I have been called to significantly lower my prices for individual coaching and readings. This does not come from a place of devaluing my work, rather of recognizing the true value. I would rather do this work for free than not do it at all! Before I coach, read, teach, or guide, I always ask Spirit “how can I be of service?” The answer is clear, be more available, hold space for more women, create more opportunities for laughter and connection, and allow the truth to come forward.
Starting today my readings and coaching services are only $49 for one-hour sessions! This price point came directly from spirit (my ego did a little kicking and screaming along the way, because ya know, change can be scary for the ego). But I am overjoyed at the ability to offer what I do at this price. AND If this is still too steep for you, I've been there before, I will also offer one weekly scholarship space for a reading or coaching session. The details on how to apply for this and other scholarship opportunities will be available on my website within the week.
If you are unfamiliar with my services and how they might be exactly what you’ve been looking for, you can get more details on my COACHING/READING page. Thank you for being here, for reading this, and for supporting the embodiment of my life's passion!
Passion, Lust, Shame, Fear, Power
Typically, New Moons are a time of quiet contemplation and intention settings. As the first sliver of light after a dark moon, they mark the time of new beginnings and cycles. However, today’s New Moon in Scorpio has a spicier flavor. We are being deeply invited into our shadows, our dark side, the parts of ourselves that we tend to stuff away from the light. Rather than wallow in the depths of these shadows, we are being invited to shake up our feeling about them, moving from resisting to embracing.
Have you ever shared something you’re embarrassed about with a friend only to find that they have done/thought the same thing? Think, eating cake out of the garbage, watching porn, fantasizing about running away from your “perfect life”, on and on and on. Once you get it out in the open, suddenly any feelings of shame you had, dissolve, maybe you can even laugh about it. The darkness is what gives a shadow it’s power. The coat rack in the corner of the room can look like a monster to a child in the dark, but once the light is on, the fear is removed. This is the power of shadow work.
It has been through the acknowledgement of my darkest shadows that I have found the most light in my life. I’m not saying that shadow work is always as easy as flipping a light on. Sometimes it’s deep and gut wrenching and shakes us to our very core, but it is always worth it in the end. Our brain wants us to stay small and play it safe. It resists the work of the shadows hard. Our soul though, wants us to grow and flourish, to fight our demons and come out victorious.
Today you have a choice, to keep resisting that which scares you or to face it head on. I used to suffer from anxiety pretty regularly, especially after my divorce. I remember calling my Clairvoyance teacher and friend (shout out Elizabeth Guilbeault) during one of these bouts of anxiety. I was resisting it hard and feeling so much judgment about my anxiety. She said to me “What if you let yourself really feel it this time? Sink all the way down into those feelings? What if this is the last time to have to feel like this?” It felt so scary, and bottomless. But I did it, I leaned in and really fell apart and found there was a bottom and it wasn’t nearly as far down as my fear led me believe it was.
I share this example because I remember thinking I might die if I really felt it. My fear was so huge at the time. At the bottom of that anxiety was the fear that I wasn’t worthy of being loved in a way that felt safe to me. This was my shadow. Saying it now, it’s hard to imagine how this belief had such a hold on me, but it did. Mainly because I didn’t even know what it was at the time. I couldn’t see the cause, I could only feel the symptom.
That’s what happens with shadows, we feel the symptoms if we aren’t willing to look for the cause. We feel exhausted all the time, anxious, easily triggered, have explosive anger, or feel like crying, but we don’t know why. The shadow is the path to healing. It’s being willing to take the dark trail through the woods knowing it’s going to take you where you need to go.
So how can you embrace your shadow work today, for this New Moon in Scorpio?
You can write about it. Shadow work is usually pretty messy, so you might want to write on loose paper rather than a journal you keep and look back on. Some people even like to burn their shadow journaling after, as a cathartic release. Use the following questions and prompts to get you started and be willing to let anything and everything come through:
If you want a guide for exploring your shadows, it would be my absolute pleasure to be of service. Through coaching and tarot reading, it is my passion to help individuals work through the blocks that are keeping them from their authentic existence. This coming Sunday, November 3rd I will be hosting the Monthly Moon Circle at Shilo Farm. We will honor the changing cycles of the moon and the cycles within ourselves. During our time together we will deepen our inner wisdom through connection, discussion, journaling, movement, meditation, and sprinkling of magic. Click here for more details or to register.
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My hope is through my words, through my own experiences, you will relate to some piece of my story. Some desire that I've shared or insecurity I've admitted to will also belong to you. My words are my truth, but they may also be yours.