I have always been fascinated by sexuality. It is amazing how essentially the same act can be experienced so differently. There is so much more to sexuality than we’ve been brought up to believe. In a culture that is overtly obsessed with sex, we are barely scratching the surface of this primal human experience. I’ve made it my mission to uncover that depth; I believe that we are all sex Gods and Goddesses, waiting to be unearthed. If you want to have more mind blowing sex with your partner, keep reading. If you are currently single and want to attract a partner to have out of this world sex with, keep reading. If you want to tap into the Divine sexual energy that exists inside of you and harness that energy to create amazing things in your life, keep reading. Sex is not just an act, and it’s certainly not a dirty one, it’s a creative, energetic force, a physical manifestation of the spirit, body, and mind. To empower yourself sexually……
1.Develop and foster a deep love for yourself. Many people bring poor self-esteem, lack of body confidence, insecurities, and damaging past relationships to their current sexual arena. This often creates blocks which can manifest themselves as low sex drive, sex that lacks an emotional connection, or a complete disconnect from our own sexuality. We are incapable of taping into our sexual power if we do not first and wholeheartedly love ourselves.
2.Open the door to Communication. If you are in a relationship, the first step to elevate your sexual relationship is to be able to talk openly with your partner. What do you want? What do they want? How can you facilitate each other’s fantasies? If you are single, talk to your friends, journal about it. Don’t say “ I want good sex” be specific. Call in the exact partner you want, the exact sexual experience you desire.
3.Take initiative. Ladies this one is mostly for you. Please don’t fall into the pattern or idea that it is a man’s job to initiate sex. Do not be afraid to be bold. Now this never means going against someone else’s freewill, always be respectful to other’s relationships to sex. I am sexually aggressive, always have been. I have been criticized for this in my life, being too forward in my desires, and yet I would never change this part of myself.
4.Find the amusement. Sex is fun! Sex is the place we grownups get to play and be silly! I love sex bloopers. There is nothing more amusing to me then when a sexy moment can go completely off course with some drooling, farting, falling off the bed or leg cramps. If you can laugh with your partner at these missteps you know you are on to something good. Let it be fun and playful, and for goodness sakes, don’t take it all too seriously.
5.Practice makes perfect. Want to be a Sex God or Goddess this year. Well practice. Be willing to have mediocre sex on your quest for mind-blowing sex. I personally like having a steady sexual partner, I think this allows for deeper intimacy and possibility for exploration. With a consistent partner you have the ability to really learn and explore your likes and dislikes, and get creative. But whatever floats your boat, just be safe, have fun, and love yourself through it all.
This blog first appeared on Daring Spirits Blog January 2017
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